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How I Can Help You With Trauma
I work with women at any time following their birth, it could be 3 months or 3 years, whenever they feel they are ready to tackle what they experienced. If you feel different following your birthing experience and feel sad or dissatisfied with the memory, or if you are finding attachment and bonding to your baby difficult, this work is very helpful. It is especially important to process and deal with a birth that was difficult before conceiving another baby. I also recommend body work because it supports and helps the body release the held memories and move on. What Parents Say "I had my son 3 years ago and it was an awful time for me, I didn't cope well afterwards and my marriage came close to ending. I realised I could not "afford " this to happen again and so in my second pregnancy I went to see Eleanor because I had heard she could help me come to some good decisions and since I am quite an analytical person I needed that. The consultant offered me an elective caesarean due to my anxiety over my sons birth, the problems I had had with the episiotomy scar and the way our sex life had been altered as a result. I thought a lot about it and just going for the op didn't feel like the complete answer, it was also presented to me as a way out of all my issues and I didn't totally believe that. Working with Eleanor was amazing because 1st I hadn't realised how much fear I was holding in my body and how stressed I was becoming and 2nd it gave me a space to voice my worries and to receive practical and emotional support and encouragement. After 3 sessions I was in a different place and was actually excited about the birth, amazing in itself! It went brilliantly. I had decided I would like a labour of 4 hours with minimal of fuss and my son was born in exactly 4 hours I was over the moon and so was my husband and it was brilliant to see him so thrilled and Relieved too. I had no problems after the birth and am very delighted with my 2 boys and myself of course! I look back and reflect on all the events that led up to what happened to me and I am now at peace with my memories and am calm in a way I was not before. " Jane, Taunton "I had a caesarean 4 years ago and it upset me because I had been planning to have my daughter at home. My daughter and I have a fantastic relationship but I have always felt sad and guilty that I did not have her at home which is what I wanted so much. I am at a point where I am considering having another baby and realised that my birth choices are now limited due to my previous caesarean. I went to see Eleanor and we looked at how my good intentions had resulted in being in hospital and having an operation to have my baby. I have since gained an understanding of my part during her labour and that I expected too much of my husband that it was unrealistic. I now feel I can accept what happened without regret anger or guilt because it’s the way she was born and she is wonderful. I also feel able to consider another pregnancy and will not have the same feelings that I did which is much healthier for us as a family. I will probably hire a doula next time and do some more work with Eleanor to keep focused and coping. We shall see, but at least I can say that comfortably now and not be uptight." Sylvie, Bristol. "I was recommended Eleanor because at 8 months after my son Peter was born I was feeling low. Various things had happened (as they generally do!) Which meant I felt detached from my birthing experience and due to a heavy bleed at 10 days and 3 weeks post birth I had an operation, all of this meant breast feeding ended much sooner that I had wished it to and that I had been separated from my baby. I now feel much better and realise I was put into a difficult situation: my 2 local hospitals gave me the wrong information and I ended up going to a 3rd and it wasn't good for lots of reasons. I don't know if it’s the normal passage of time but I do feel so much better than I did and know that if we have another baby (and I hope we do) that I will approach things differently. The most important thing for me is to trust my intuition as I am always right, it’s just at this time I didn't believe in myself." Chrissie, Devon. Telephone: 01823 350945 For health care professionals Accessing and receiving support is such a valuable part of professional work and in addition helps with self confidence, low mood, decision making skills and job satisfaction. What Health Care Professionals Say "I am a Midwife and have found I can cope so much better with the great support I get from Eleanor. Because she knows about the complicated environment she is able to understand the dynamics around the work place. There have been times when work is so difficult I cannot do it to the best of my ability and then I feel bad: anxious, lazy, guilty and not happy. It’s a lot better now because I have been able to look at my actions and what effect they have without blaming or criticising myself but at the same time being aware of what I can do well and what I am not so good at. I feel happier and more settled than I have for a long while." Telephone: 01823 350945 |
